This is how thinking, writing and reading will guide you into a clear direction!
Welcome — and thank you for being here.
This is Chapter 4 of my book From No Direction to Clear Direction – Guided by My True Values.
The book is written step by step to help you reflect, grow, and find your own direction in life.
You can find all chapters in the menu above.
Instincts explained in a simple and easy way to understand
You have now read about how babies act on instinct as they grow through life, how children react, the choices they make based on what they want, and how other people can influence them.
First things first: I truly believe that listening to yourself is where everything begins.
You came here to read this book and learn about the tools I have used myself.
I must say that during the last 20 years, I have talked to many people.
Both people who made massive progress in life, and those who still do not have a clear direction.
I was also without direction until that accident in 2023. Before that, I had tried everything.
“Follow your dream.”
“Find your passion.”
"Courses about avoiding procrastination."
And many other things.
But most of them were missing the connection I eventually found.
The connection between core values and intrinsic motivation.
Because that is the key.
I know it because I have seen it in myself, and I have studied people like Tony Robbins and many others.
So I created my own system, and I now share it with you for free in this book.
It is called:
THINK – WRITE – READ 🤔
But the system itself is not the most important thing.
What matters is what it can create in your life.
I believe you can achieve far more than you think.
When we spend too much time only thinking, our thoughts often become focused on questions like:
“What will other people say?”
“What if I fail?”
“What if I never reach where I want to go?”
I was there myself.
I let my thoughts lead me instead of listening to my intuition and intrinsic motivation.
Some years ago, I worked with a man named Steve.
He had discovered something interesting about students and what top universities were actually looking for during admissions.
These universities, often called the Ivy League schools, include:
- Brown University
- Columbia University
- Cornell University
- Dartmouth College
- Harvard University
- University of Pennsylvania
- Princeton University
- Yale University
Most students worked extremely hard to achieve the highest possible grades in order to be accepted.
But admission officers were not only looking for students with perfect scores.
They were often more interested in students who wanted to make a meaningful difference in the world.
Students who were driven by something personal and deeply important to them.
So if two students had similar academic results, the student with a stronger personal mission, passion, or deeper purpose often stood out more.
To explain this more clearly:
Some students focused only on getting the highest scores because they wanted to impress others or gain external validation.
That is extrinsic motivation.
Meanwhile, students who presented something connected to their own values, purpose, and intrinsic motivation often had stronger applications.
Some of them were accepted into several Ivy League universities.
I have seen this pattern many times, and I want you to think carefully about it.
When we do something that truly comes from inside us, without constantly worrying about what society or other people think, something extraordinary can happen.
We gain energy.
We gain focus.
We gain direction.Â
Intrinsic motivation creates movement.
And now you might be thinking:
“How can I find my own direction?”
READ: Being you and only you